How Teens Should Handle a Bully
Have you ever been teased or bullied? Both are negative actions and can have a lifelong effect on you.
Teasing is just a mild form of bullying. Teasing is when people poke fun at you and don't really intend to hurt you, but if you are a sensitive person, it can still inflict emotional pain. Bullying on the other hand is when someone intentionally tries to hurt you verbally or physically.
Research shows that 1 in 5 Canadian youths are being bullied regularly and 45% of children do not feel safe when they go to school. Bullying has negative effects on everyone and we all need to do what we can to stop this problem.
Why do bullies bully? This is often because they have been bullied or abused themselves and they have little control over their lives. They may live in an environment where bullying is a normal action and they do not have positive role models. By attacking someone who is weaker and has low esteem, they temporarily feel powerful and in control of their lives.
What should you do when you are being bullied? Don't give a bully what they want. Never cry or act scared. Never try to insult or threaten the bully as it can make the situation worse. Bullies don't usually bother confident people. It is important to work hard on building your confidence so you can stand up to the bully and firmly tell them to leave you alone. Just ignore them, walk away and make sure you tell someone who you trust what has happened.
If you see someone who is being bullied, try to step in unless your safety is at risk. Research shows that when a friend steps in to help, bullying stops in 57% of the time in 10 seconds or less. Bullies like an audience, so don't give them one.
NOBODY has the right to hurt someone else physically or verbally. When someone hurts us, we naturally feel bad, but we should try to understand why they are hurting us. It may be that they just didn't think about what they said, they were feeling bad themselves or they may be jealous. If they did hurt us on purpose, they have a serious issue that isn't our fault and we shouldn't feel bad. Always remind yourself that you are valuable and you should be treated with respect.
Teasing is just a mild form of bullying. Teasing is when people poke fun at you and don't really intend to hurt you, but if you are a sensitive person, it can still inflict emotional pain. Bullying on the other hand is when someone intentionally tries to hurt you verbally or physically.
Research shows that 1 in 5 Canadian youths are being bullied regularly and 45% of children do not feel safe when they go to school. Bullying has negative effects on everyone and we all need to do what we can to stop this problem.
Why do bullies bully? This is often because they have been bullied or abused themselves and they have little control over their lives. They may live in an environment where bullying is a normal action and they do not have positive role models. By attacking someone who is weaker and has low esteem, they temporarily feel powerful and in control of their lives.
What should you do when you are being bullied? Don't give a bully what they want. Never cry or act scared. Never try to insult or threaten the bully as it can make the situation worse. Bullies don't usually bother confident people. It is important to work hard on building your confidence so you can stand up to the bully and firmly tell them to leave you alone. Just ignore them, walk away and make sure you tell someone who you trust what has happened.
If you see someone who is being bullied, try to step in unless your safety is at risk. Research shows that when a friend steps in to help, bullying stops in 57% of the time in 10 seconds or less. Bullies like an audience, so don't give them one.
NOBODY has the right to hurt someone else physically or verbally. When someone hurts us, we naturally feel bad, but we should try to understand why they are hurting us. It may be that they just didn't think about what they said, they were feeling bad themselves or they may be jealous. If they did hurt us on purpose, they have a serious issue that isn't our fault and we shouldn't feel bad. Always remind yourself that you are valuable and you should be treated with respect.
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