All you hear about are these kids with guns going into schools.
The fact that only the home environment is getting the blame is a wrong
way to look at it, considering these stories all relate back to
BULLYING. These Kids all deal with BULLYING and a Bully has more say
than a parent. Kids don't necessarily only act out because of their home
environment.
Peer Pressure is starting way younger. You have got to fit in at a much younger age. You have to "fit the bill" or you are what is considered "out". It starts with 'You do for me and I will do for you'. Pretty much meaning you do as I say and take the blame if anything goes wrong and then you are considered a friend. It is sad. This is what is being taught as friendship from day one.
Kids are too young to press charges on and principles don't want to get involved anymore than they have to. Even when the harassment is caught on camera! They send the kids to a mediator who basically tells them to play nice and go back to class. Is that Fair?
A Counselor will admit to a parents' face that the students feel like they are being put on the spot and pinned against one another. I had my daughter tell me that she HAD TO be friends with her BULLY because that is what the school was telling her to do. It is SAD... when your child's aggressor walks down the hall saying '"Ha Ha you have to be friends with me" after a mediation. Yeah, completely and utterly wrong!
The victim gets re-victimized by being put in the same room as the aggressor and having to sit there while the lies are being told and blame is being placed. There is no comfort in speaking out when you get harassed because the bully finds out and then is even worse after the fact and the school does not put forth punishment until the harassment escalates.
So then your child catches on and starts giving back what they are getting and its partly due to the fact that they realize there are no real consequences for verbal harassment, stealing things, telling lies. The child does not want to just sit back and take it so they become what they hate to stay ahead of the game. Lowering themselves to the other ones level is how they are taught to prove a point because no real punishments are given when the harassment starts. Then things snowball into worse scenarios because there was no prevention method put in place before hand.
Parents need to step and realize that the schools will not do anything about it, as teachers do not have as much say as they use to. Most of the time the teachers are completely outnumbered. This is why some schools have metal detectors and police surveillance. It is not like the old days when you would get sent to the principals' office for talking back or get a ruler to the hand or have to sit with gum on your nose.
Technology is taking over the kids and the kids are taking over the teachers. We need to take our schools back. The teachers need to stop blaming the parents and the parents need to stop blaming the teachers. There has to be a united front.
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Peer Pressure is starting way younger. You have got to fit in at a much younger age. You have to "fit the bill" or you are what is considered "out". It starts with 'You do for me and I will do for you'. Pretty much meaning you do as I say and take the blame if anything goes wrong and then you are considered a friend. It is sad. This is what is being taught as friendship from day one.
Kids are too young to press charges on and principles don't want to get involved anymore than they have to. Even when the harassment is caught on camera! They send the kids to a mediator who basically tells them to play nice and go back to class. Is that Fair?
A Counselor will admit to a parents' face that the students feel like they are being put on the spot and pinned against one another. I had my daughter tell me that she HAD TO be friends with her BULLY because that is what the school was telling her to do. It is SAD... when your child's aggressor walks down the hall saying '"Ha Ha you have to be friends with me" after a mediation. Yeah, completely and utterly wrong!
The victim gets re-victimized by being put in the same room as the aggressor and having to sit there while the lies are being told and blame is being placed. There is no comfort in speaking out when you get harassed because the bully finds out and then is even worse after the fact and the school does not put forth punishment until the harassment escalates.
So then your child catches on and starts giving back what they are getting and its partly due to the fact that they realize there are no real consequences for verbal harassment, stealing things, telling lies. The child does not want to just sit back and take it so they become what they hate to stay ahead of the game. Lowering themselves to the other ones level is how they are taught to prove a point because no real punishments are given when the harassment starts. Then things snowball into worse scenarios because there was no prevention method put in place before hand.
Parents need to step and realize that the schools will not do anything about it, as teachers do not have as much say as they use to. Most of the time the teachers are completely outnumbered. This is why some schools have metal detectors and police surveillance. It is not like the old days when you would get sent to the principals' office for talking back or get a ruler to the hand or have to sit with gum on your nose.
Technology is taking over the kids and the kids are taking over the teachers. We need to take our schools back. The teachers need to stop blaming the parents and the parents need to stop blaming the teachers. There has to be a united front.
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